What are the best Chinese gay dating apps?
Despite what many people think, being gay or having a gay relationship isn’t illegal in China.
In fact, there’s a bunch of Chinese dating apps dedicated solely to the LGBTQ+ community. These apps help like-minded people meet each other in a traditional society where sexuality isn’t openly discussed.
However, Chinese gay dating apps are a little different to those in the West, simply because they have to be.
They must adhere to the Chinese government’s rules and regulations, and this means provocative and explicit content is a big no-no.
They’re also not marketed as gay apps. Instead, they use words like ‘community’ and ‘diversity’ to differentiate themselves.
Rest assured you can still have fun with gay dating apps in China. Just stick to private conversations, and stay protected with a VPN as mentioned further down.
Over 40 million guys have this app on their phone, making it the king (queen?) of all Chinese gay dating apps.
Pronounced “Blue-duh”, the app has live broadcasts where you can interact with hot dudes from around the world. Most guys are Chinese, but the app’s also popular in other Asian countries.
Blued allows you to message anyone you like in your nearby area. But there’s also a feature to swipe left or right on a guy, similar to Tinder.
You can also send disappearing images (like Snapchat) and even share your real-time location.
Like most Chinese dating apps, Blued is free but there are paywalls for numerous features. This gets annoying as you’re constantly told how much better your experience could be if you open your wallet.
One interesting paid feature, however, is the ability to appear in two locations at once. This is presumably so you can start chatting up your next date before you’ve even arrived at your destination!
2. the L
This Chinese gay app is aimed squarely at women.
It used to be called Rela but was mysteriously shut down and then rebadged as ‘the L’.
Boasting membership of over 12 million girls, you can find your soulmate nearby (thanks to geo-location) or based on mutual topics you might be interested in.
The app also offers an Instagram-like feed where you can post your best selfies and react to other girls’ posts with a love heart. Awww!
This is a lesser-known Chinese gay app, owned by the same crew behind Blued. But it still has almost three million registered users.
Essentially, Finka is a social network for younger gay and bisexual men. The majority of the app’s users are born after 1995 and are from China’s first-tier cities such as Shanghai and Beijing.
So, if you’re a twink or you can only picture yourself dating a twink, this is the app for you.
Finka has the usual bells and whistles as other Chinese gay dating apps like private messaging, as well as live broadcasting and sending virtual gifts to your favorite boys.
Lately, the app’s owner has been working to raise awareness for HIV prevention. This includes investment in China’s first ‘internet hospital’ focused on men’s health.
LesPark is an exclusive lesbian social app that creates a safe space for women.
Constant monitoring ensures that any men found using the app are promptly kicked off.
LesPark attracts ladies from all walks of life, as well as those who want to use the platform to influence others via live broadcast such as singing.
In fact, users who sign up to the Baihua Plan can earn money if their original short videos get seen by lots of eyeballs.
So, be wary when using this app as some of the women may just be looking to make money.
LesPark isn’t just for ladies in China – you can meet queer Chinese women in 34 countries around the world.
I’m being a little cheeky here as Grindr isn’t a Chinese app.
However, the app did have a Chinese owner from 2016 to 2020, and it’s popular among mainland Chinese guys who want to get with an expat.
It’s also the app of choice for gay men in Hong Kong.
On Grindr, you’ll find Chinese guys who can communicate in English, or at the very least, those who want to learn English!
The guys may also be more open to no-strings hook-ups, in keeping with how the app is used in the West.
Just look out for the countless escorts who are on the app to make a living. You can spot them from a mile away with their ripped bodies!
Speaking of prostitution in China, you can read more about that here from a heterosexual perspective.
The great thing about using Grindr in China is the guys represent practically every major country in the world – international travelers, expats, as well as locals – giving you a truly global flavor.
Douban is a Chinese app but not a dating app per se.
It has over 60 million registered users, and millions more unregistered users, who use the app for movie and book reviews, music playlists, shopping, and events.
One particular feature, known as Douban Groups (or 豆瓣小组 in Mandarin), is a forum that allows people to share views on a range of topics.
There’s a sizeable queer community, especially lesbians, who use Douban Groups to find friends and build relationships.
Users can also add sub-topics within a theme, so it’s more like Reddit than a traditional dating platform.
The site has no English language version, so you’ll only find Chinese people (or those who know Mandarin) on Douban.
What about Hong Kong?
The preferred dating apps in Hong Kong are different to those in mainland China.
As far as gay dating apps go, local Hong Kongers enjoy using international apps like Grindr and HER (for queer women).
There’s also Feeld for alternative relationships such as polyamory and threesomes. You won’t find this kind of app on the mainland.
It’s nice to know you don’t necessarily need an app that’s specifically marketed as gay to find the person of your dreams in Hong Kong.
Psst! Remember the Chinese internet is censored
In case you’re planning a trip to China, it’s worth pointing out that the Chinese internet is censored.
So, when using Wi-Fi you won’t have access to your favorite sites and apps like Instagram, Facebook, WhatsApp, Google, Gmail and so on, unless you buy a virtual private network (VPN) app before you leave your country.
Fortunately, VPNs are cheap and you can see the best VPNs for China here.
You should also turn on your VPN when using gay dating apps in China for maximum privacy.
Chinese gay dating apps help the LGBTQ+ community
China offers a limited range of gay dating apps.
However, for a country that has tight control over mass media and technology, and doesn’t overtly celebrate queer culture, the handful of apps available provide an inclusive space for the gay community in China.
Just be mindful of censorship and don’t say or do anything in a public online space that could get you into hot water.
Good luck on your dating journey. Hopefully you can find your future partner on one of these apps!
For more on Chinese dating in general, check out this article. Otherwise, download one of the apps above and start chatting with the lovely locals.
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FAQ about Chinese gay dating apps
Is it illegal to be gay in China?
No, it’s legal. But most gay people keep their sexuality private.
What’s the best Chinese gay dating app in English?
For guys it’s Blued, and for ladies it’s the L.
Are Chinese gay bars better than apps to find someone?
It’s a personal preference – some people like meeting online first, while others prefer meeting face-to-face in a bar. However, outside China’s big cities, there aren’t many gay bars so apps could be your only option.